That conversation

I recall back to the beginning of our daughter’s diagnosis. For most parents preparing to have ‘that conversation’ about sex can be awkward & maybe a bit daunting.

But just how would you deal with explaining to your ill child that they don’t have cancer. Even though you can’t be really sure yourself but just want to be as positive as you can.

Tayla was born after our son Luke died.
His photos still adorn our walls, we celebrate his birthday and the anniversary of his death every year.

From the time the girls were talking they would ask ‘whose that’ as they pointed to his photos. They didn’t quite understand ‘where he was’ but over time we explained it in more detail.

So when Tayla was ill and we were unsure as to what was really wrong with her, our conversation quickly swung to ‘cancer’ and ‘death.’

At twelve years of age she was and still is incredibly ituitive. How do you reassure your child that everything is going to be alright when there is a familiar knot in the pit of your stomach. You have your own anxieties and fears about what ‘could happen.’

As I sat on her bed the night before we were heading back to the GP to get her test results, she asked me ‘Do I have the same cancer that Luke had?’
The next question came hurtling at me, with nowhere to go…’Am I going to die?’

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